Don’t be a victim of your bad dating past!
Too many men and women, who have a series of negative dating experiences or relationships, come to believe that they are destined to fail with the opposite sex in the future just like they did in their past, and that there is nothing they can do to change that. This is unfortunate, because such beliefs have no rational foundation. Thus, it is very important that you don’t allow your past disappintments in dating and relationships affect your present and future attitude toward dating and the opposite sex and become a victim of your own past. Your must overcome your bad dating experience in order to have a better dating present and future. It is a much better idea to treat your past dating experiences as valuable lessons from which you should learn what to do, what to avoid doing and how to improve your future interactions with the opposite sex.
You must remember that just because things didn’t quite work out the way you wanted them to with the previous one, two, five, or even more dating partners before, it doesn’t mean that it will not be different and better with your present or future partner. Those bad past dating experiences are only a waste of time if you make no use of them. But you can and you should benefit from your past. What you owe to yourself is learning from your past experience - making sure that whatever issues you dealt with before, you are capable of dealing with today better than before.
Other than that, you simply cannot rely on the quality of your past relationships to determine the way things will go with the person you are seeing now or will be dating in the future. Even if 10 people have cheated on you / lied to you or caused any other pain and problems, it says nothing about the person you are seeing now or the next person you will meet. So, resist the desire to generalize and believe that just because you had bad experiences in the past, your present and future will be similar to that past. After all, it would be a great shame if you didn’t manage to connect with that special person because your negative past was blinding you and prevent you from seeing that person for who he really is.
Surely, there is no insurance policy against arguments, fights, break-ups and other dating problems, but hey - taking a risk and moving forward with your current life and possibly your present dating partner is that small risk that we all take - it’s part of life and part of the dating game.
Overcoming bad, past dating experience is crucial to your emotional health, stability and your ability to successfully and effectively interact with the opposite sex.
